New Year, New Value

Happy New Year Ladies and Gents!

Last year was either really exciting for you or like me, very challenging! 

But this year, I speak that it will be of great joy! Not happiness, but joy! 

So it was placed on my heart during quiet time today to post about value. 

Money is losing value every day. You have to spend more to get less. 

But there is something that is gaining value, Bitcoin. 

Thousands of people are watching Bitcoin grow and are investing more and more by the minute! 

So the question of the day is what do you see your value as?

Is it something that is growing more and more or losing more and more by the second.

God has already placed a priceless value on you because you were already paid for on the cross. 

It is up to you to fully accept that priceless price tag. 

In this new year, there may not be any physical changes. But this year, I challenge you to accept this priceless price tag. 

Not free, but priceless. 


Are you ready for your Christian counterpart?

Hi ladies and gents ❤️

This blog was started to provide a voice for single men and women of God.

At the end of the day, a large percentage of us are wanting the husband or wife that God has created for us.

Are you ready?

How do you know if you’re ready?

And how do you know if she/he is the one that God has created for you.

First question: Are You Ready?

Well more than likely the answer is of course! I’ve been single a while. Lord what’s the plan? Where is he? Where is she? I know how to cook, clean, and provide a stable home.

Second question: How do you know if you are ready?

If your response is anything like the top question, I’m sorry to tell you that you’re probably not ready. 

If that burst a bubble, I’m sorry! 

However, the purpose of a mate is not to fill a void. It’s not to keep us from feeling lonely. It’s definitely not to make us feel whole.

A mate is created to help you in your purpose. 

You should not, I repeat should not, enter into prayer for the sending in your spouse if you do not know your purpose.

Now sometimes, your spouse will be the one to encourage and establish the foundation of your purpose. 

But if you don’t even know what your purpose of Earth, start there.

I promise you, when you learn your purpose and are living in or preparing for that purpose, that is when your spouse is sent.

While Adam was sleeping, God formed Eve from his rib. 

Though very familiar, the prior verses are equally if not more important.

God knew 3 verses (Genesis 2:18) prior to the creation of Eve (Genesis 2:21) that it was not good for man to be alone. 

However, God waited until Adam had been working in his purpose of naming every single creature before He sent Adam his helpmeet. 

So ladies and gents, the question you must ask yourself before “why am I still single?” is “Am I truly living in my purpose and whole enough to accept my spouse?” 

Whole enough?

What in the world is that? 

Well the Bible says “And the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” (Mark 10:8) 

Not one and a half, but two. Now most believe it means two individuals become one. I believe it is two spirits become one. 

How can you provide a whole spirit if you are not whole in God. Meaning you can’t be half flesh half spirit. 

You must die to your flesh to receive your spouse ❤️

How do you know if she/he is the one that God has created for you?

Now, let’s say you’ve met someone and she/he gives you butterflies galore 😍

Well first question you should ask is are they a Christian? 

Well thats probably an obvious yes.

But here’s the thing, it’s not.

Anyone could claim they are a Christian and know a few verses in the Bible, such as John 3:16. 

Ladies, we all want a man who can lead. If they are leading you based on false pretenses, the relationship is headed for a crooked path.

Men, the woman was formed from the rib to protect the heart and lungs (the reason you breath and live) As a man, and human for that matter, your heart is a very vulnerable and sometimes hidden part of who you are. If you let someone who may think they are your rib protect the most vital parts of you, it may cause the very thing that you’re living and breathing (your purpose) to die. 

Are you able to let them go?

This is a tough one. 

Once we find someone who is literally the best thing that has happened to us, we don’t want to let it go.

However, I believe in having God’s hand on every aspect of the relationship (from meeting-death).

If you relinquish control and allow God to essentially work on the very thing that you have given value to, it keeps you from making the huge mistake of making someone your idol.

We know that God does not like idols.

By praying “Lord, although I truly care for this person that has entered in my life, if it is not of you, take it away. For your will is so much more important than mine.” 

This prayer not only relinquishes control over this relationship, but allows for this relationship to be placed in God’s hands. 

This allows for let God work. And when God works, everything is truly perfect in its own time ❤️

Grace to you and peace!

Maybe this time.

Hi ladies and gents!

So I am a big fan of musicals and just music in general.

So yesterday, YouTube suggested a song I hadn’t heard in years. 

Maybe this time.

As I was listening to song and I know it is secular but I couldn’t help but apply some of the lyrics to Jesus.

For some of us, we say “maybe this time, I’ll be celibate.” “Maybe this time, I’ll trust God.” “Maybe this time, I won’t make any movement until God says to.” Maybe this time.

For me, it’s maybe this time I’ll trust God.

Too many times, I’ve tried to work situations out on my own, especially in the financial department.

I hear God say, “Trust Me” but too often times, I look at the worlds clock.

 The clock that says I’m running out of time.

The clock that literally causes me to have major anxiety.

The Bible says 

“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You.” (Isaiah 26:3; NIV). 

God will give us peace that surpasses all understanding.

So I say to you all, make your maybe this time into I trust you always.

No I’m not too young.

I have a desire to be married.

I’m 21 and I’m excited to be married.

Now usually when I tell people this, the first thing they say is, “you’re too young.”

Because I was raised to be respectful, my answer usually is okay instead of being argumentative.

But really I want to scream NO I’M NOT! 

Lately my mother and I have been getting into some deep discussions about this. 

Every time my answer in terms of marriage is “if it is in God’s plan I will be.” And she gets so upset.

And I never understood why. My mother is my spiritual leader, so why would she get so upset with my answer.

A week ago, I finally got the answer I was looking for.

My best friend and I were talking about marriage (she’s slightly older than me).

And she asked if I had a desire to be married one day.

I told her yes, if it is in God’s plan for me. 

She said “did you ever take a moment to believe that it was God that placed that desire in you.” 

To be honest no I hadn’t.

Honestly I was always a bit ashamed of my desire.

While most 21 year olds are taking shots at the bar, I am at home reading my Word, learning to cook different meals, working on my Masters degree, and learning how to budget.

Some of the friends I’ve lost didn’t understand how I could completely be happy at home and not enjoy the highs of being young.

The truth is I am enjoying life. 

Maybe not the way the world would think I should, but I am only on Earth to please one person.

Yes, I am 21 and have a desire to be married.

No, I’m not too young to have that desire.

Yes, I will continue to work towards the goals God has placed before me.

Yes, I will be content in whatever season God has placed before me. 

Chase God, Not That

Chase God, Not that.

That’s it.

Just kidding.

For a lot of my friends and even family members, they love it to go to God when they need something.

Lord, please send me a man. Lord, please send me a job offer. Lord, please send me a car.

Have you ever been with someone or friends with someone who only calls when they need something?

I don’t know about you, but I get pretty frustrated.

Of course, God will listen but He’s not wanting you to be lukewarm.

Okay getting off topic.

Chase God, not that.

I felt that in my spirit today.

As women, we know not to chase men. But some of still do.

As men, you are to be the chasers and women are to be chased.

That job you want, go after it.

That house you want, apply for it.

That woman you want, chase her.

I hear this all the time in church.

And quite frankly I’m sick of it.

This is why.

I do believe that some of the desires that we as humans have are from God.

But I think as people we skip a step.

Matthew 6:33 says Seek Him FIRST! 

Be weary of desires of the spirit and desires of the flesh.

This is why it’s so important to chase God and not whatever your that is (girlfriend, boyfriend, job, etc).

I do believe that all aspects of life can come in a wolf in sheep’s clothing not just a person.

Chase God and He will provide the desires of your heart.

But don’t let that be your only reason for chasing Him.

Chase Him because He’s your Father, your First Love, your Savior, etc. 

grace and peace ✌️❤️

Confession #3- I measured incorrectly 

When you want to see how much you weigh you use a scale.

When you want to see how tall you are you use a ruler.

When you want to see how many inches your waist is, you use a measuring tape.

Why is it that I know all of this, but still use comparisons to measure my own life.

My favorite Proverb is Proverbs 31. 

Even though it was written for men not women, us women can still take something from it.

“For her price is far above rubies.” Her price is known because her worth has been measured properly, using the correct system. 

If we measure our lives according to comparisons of others, we are bound to be off.

Let me explain, if you want to see how tall you are you don’t go to another person and compare difference of height. If you do, you’re bound to be off a couple of inches. 

Let us stop determining our worth in life by comparing it to other people. 

Think of God as the ultimate scale. He is the only One who should be able to determine your worth. 

In fact, He already has.

He created us in HIS image. And if He can’t be bought, neither should we. 

We are priceless. We are beautiful. We are handsome. Most importantly, we are His. 

The Ignored Proverbs 31 Woman

Hi ladies and gents!

I pray you’re having an amazing day! 

Today I want to talk about the ignored Proverbs 31 woman.

This is kind of a late anecdote to mothers on Mother’s Day.

Too often times, we jump right into Proverbs 31:10 and ignore the first 9 verses.

The ignored Proverbs 31 woman is a mother.

A mother who deeply cared about who her son was going to be.

She tells him don’t waste your energy on women. 

She compares her son to a king and focuses on his character before she even tells him what kind of woman she desires for him. 

She recognizes that the woman that she desires for him is not just going to be with just anyone. 

That woman is going to want to be with someone who cares for the poor, doesn’t get drunk to forget his worries, and doesn’t sleep with multiple women.

Dear mothers, you are the forgotten Proverbs 31 woman. 

You pour your heart and prayers into your children 

And we seem to ignore the fact that behind every great man there is a great woman who is not his wife but his mother.

You exemplify to your daughter how to be a Biblical woman but you recongize that being one doesn’t start in Proverbs 31. But starts with Genesis and ends in Revelation.

When you give your son to his bride, recognize that your story does not end but your legacy continues. 

His bride will continue Proverbs 31 because his bride will be an extension of you.

Dear mothers, thank you for being our mothers.